tip_toprevent_adolescence.htm

My dear Ezine readers, with your dedicated efforts I hope, we united would be able to save hundred of teenager’s lives during the year. Whether, we would be able to Celebrate year 2007 as Suicide Free Teenagers Year - 2007 (SIFT-07) or not; but number of suicide cases of my teenagers would be surely quite low. My family’s solo efforts have been so far well acknowledged by all the intellectuals and parents; but the teacher community has shown some reservations and apprehensions about their role as teacher. I have deliberated enough about the ABC of ASS in by previous debate, but nevertheless, today I would focus on the materialistic approach of teacher in Modern Education System (MES).

I anticipate my readers would agree that now days most of the teachers have become professionals in minting money and not ideals of social status. When I was child, I was educated to respect teachers next to god and I used to revere my teachers accordingly. Most of them were generally addressed as Gurus (Teacher). Despites of living poor and poverty filled life; all teachers were viewed as Men of Integrity, Morality and Principles (MIMP) status in the society. Infact, they were the role model and ideal of our generations. Though, they never got pays for months and years, but they worked round the clock in making national character of country’s citizen. A much venerated, respected and elite community has lost her path of society makers; and now have become the professional of Christ’s prophecy of erroneous stratum. Their place used to be next to mother in a human beings life in India and Asia. I heard that some of teachers are earning over rupees fifty to eighty thousand per month but what they teach has nothing to do with the society or SFTY-07. I also heard that a teacher to earn over rupees fifty thousands a month is riding his bike for more than 280 kilometers or over five hours a day. He is not because he is teaching well but he was running behind money to cover larger areas for different subject tuitions.

Now, I would concentrate on diverse facets, which I believe, we all are lacking while addressing various issues of today’s fast running teenagers life. Some of the teenagers in the urge to grow fast have gone astray and began to over utilize their immature physical body. Such teenagers are victims of unusual social evils which degraded their physical strength. While interacting with a police official who conducted inquest of her death, it was revealed that she has become a woman almost three years before her suicide at the age of seventeen. What do you understand with these revelations?

After a prolonged study on various teenagers’ death, I conclude that we lacked the following:

· One; Lack Proper Communication (LPC). Whenever, a teenager had committed suicide, I found that there was a clear communication gap between parents, teachers and ward. The lack of interaction with their wards by parents, especially by a single working mother was evident. Such teenagers, who committed suicide, generally remained out of touch from their parents due to one or the other cause. The parents on the other hand rather than trying to pacify their wards have gone to extremes of widening communication gap. The Momentous Small Changes (MSC) has led the teen towards death. It is therefore suggested that parents must maintain a close personal relationships and ensure a regular meetings.

· Two; Rift in Inter-Personal Relationship (RIPR); What I have learnt that inter personal relationship of teenager with mother, father or other siblings were tense and the teenagers was under going through severe phase of rapidly changing two states of minds alfa; Intra-Ego State Syndrome (IESS), and bravo; Intra Personality Conflict Balancing Syndrome (IPCBS). I have studied that while most of the teenagers overcome the later; but they always succumb to former IESS. I, therefore, suggest that parents should:

o First; understand the basic psychic of their teenager;

o Second; interact with his friends and teachers often, if teenager’s shows symptoms of Leave Me Alone (LMA) or I know;

o Third; Keep your teenager’s busy on some constructive job which satisfy his/her IESS, and;

o Fourth; be with your teenager’s even if it tantamount to taking leaves

· Three: Am Busy, You See (AMYS): While carrying out analysis of some of the recent suicide cases, it was revealed that father and mother had adopted the attitude of I am too busy, you see and vice versa. Due to this attitude, both have neglected their teenager when he needed most; and thus leaving him to end his life. It is clear sign of lacking mutual understanding amongst husband and wife.

· Four; Personal Feel and Touch (PFT); Now days, though most of the parents have claimed that they were in direct touch with their wards, but I have often found that most of the parents were in true wisdom lacking the sense of belongingness and homely. Parents have found to have remained committed to meet their obligations more towards their working circle and though neglected teenagers for very short period but completely. This lack of PFT has driven teenagers towards Negative Reversal Riposte (NRR). I suggest that parents should;

o One; Make teenagers feel pulse of your heart and not the words of Mouth;

o Two; Often embrace your teens to make them feel your warmth and love;

o Three; open your heart to your teen and not the mouth;

o Four; Act as shock absorber to solve teenagers physical and mental stresses; and

o Five; Share all family matters with your teens on Needs to Know Basis (NTKB) principle.

· Five; Lack of Insight Understanding (LIU); the lack of in-depth knowledge of their teenager’s insight and understanding (LIU) has been more or less proved to be the last nail of the coffin before burial. I have observed that most of the parents failed to understand their teen thus regretting through out their lives after their teenager’s suicide. Generally when teenager is under duress he undergoes various mental stresses which can only be discerned if parents have been religiously maintaining the PFT and LIU.

After analyzing various Parents’s lacking traits, I would suggest a few remedial

steps to understand their wards,

· One; parents must consider their teenager as friends and treat as such;

· Two; keep teenagers free of home encumbrances of livelihood;

· Three; regularly interact with teenagers;

· Four; never leave your teenager alone during trying times of exams; and

· Five; develop complete and blind faith in your teenagers so that he/she never hides anything whatsoever wrong happens.

I am sure that if future parents are able to fulfill the required obligations and take necessary measure, I am sure we would be able to celebrate SFTY-007. I appeal to all the readers to send the appeal to spread education through network to benefit maximum teenagers, parents and teachers. Though my analyses have targeted both parents and teachers; but I would also exclusively debate about the role of materialistic teacher of modern age and true teachers of humanity. The common causes of suicide other than Attitudinal Changes I would debate the Subtle Challenges of fast moving modern teenagers life style to debate as to how to meet these challenges of teenagers suicide?

I, S Kalpna Sharma, am a freelance journalist who frequently write on various issues relating human values. My impetus of debate has been always focused on current issues which affect human beings life and social behavior. As always try to bring out debates on human values, my readers support base become large.